The beginning of the end: 3 months before the breakup, couples start talking differently

The beginning of the end: 3 months before the breakup, couples start talking differently

A new study has found that if a partner begins to use certain words, a breakup may be just around the corner.

According to a scientific study, the conversation style of a man or woman in a couple changes 3 months before the breakup of the relationship, writes Insider.

Regardless of whether someone in the couple initiated the breakup or not, people began using words such as “I” instead of “we” in their vocabulary before and after the breakup.

The researchers are convinced that these words show that one of the partners in the couple was in cognitive thinking mode. That is, the person was looking internally for the cause of dissatisfaction and trying to analyze the relationship with the other person.

“The fact that irreversible changes began before the breakup occurred means one thing: People though they did not feel the breakup coming, but it had already affected their lives,” said the author of the study, psychologist Sarah Seraj.

However, timely noticing that the partner uses the “I” instead of “we” can avoid a painful breakup. To do this, psychologists recommend, you need to talk frankly with your partner or decide to go to therapy for couples.